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The Christmas Tree Angel…a reminder of grace December 24, 2025

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Merry Christmas dear friends and family.

Have you ever noticed how any time an angel appears in scriptures, the first words they speak are, “Do not be afraid” or “Fear not”. I suspect this is because the mere arrival of an angel is startling and unexpected. Also, perhaps their size and visage, unlike anythig one is used to, is scary. Most Christmas angel decor does not look scary…unless you consider our Christmas angel.

This year as I unearthed our beloved angel Christmas tree topper from her tissue filled box, I was stunned at just how unsightly she had become. If a larger version of her desended from the heavens, knocked on my door or popped up in my room, I would definatley need to hear her say, “Do not be afraid!” She is rather scary looking these days, and yet I love her more each passing year. She is a reminder not only of my growing up years, but of the goodness of God’s grace. Oh, I probably do not need to say, “Do not be afraid” when we meet…but if you could truley see how imperfect I am, know my hidden struggles and failures…you would perhaps gasp and I would say “”fear not”. The Good News is, God has seen and knows all our imperfections and in all our imperfections loves us, redeems us and pours out His GRACE(unearned favor).

Here again, is the annual sharing of The Christmas Tree Angel….Thank you for taking the time to read and share in this season of advent.

I’m not sure where she came from. (update: someone recognized
her and informed me she is a Nuremberg angel!) I’m not even certain of her
age. (update: As a Nuremberg angel, we probably acquired her when my
family lived in Germany when dad was in the Air Force…this would make her well
over 50 yrs!)

She sat atop the Christmas tree for many of my growing up years,
quietly presiding over each holiday season.  I acquired her from my mother
many years ago.

Her gold foil, cardboard wings, once ended in perfect points
extending her stature to seven inches.  Now her wing span is slightly
reduced, as the tips went from being slightly bent, to folded, until they
eventually tore off.  Her dark red velvet dress, trimmed with gold brick
brack, fits snuggly to her waist before flowing over her cardboard form. 
Her once silky, radiant white hair, now hangs in brittle coils around her
shoulders.  A little gold foil halo covers a place on her head where some
of her hair has given way to the passage of time.

Her head and hands are made of wax, as is the candle she holds in
one hand.  I remember her as a beautiful lady, her face perfect and
delicate.  Those qualities are now faded.  Her head, once held high
and straight, has melted somewhat.  It now bows lovingly downward and a
bit to the right.  Two years ago a significant amount of time and effort
was put into re-attaching her long held candle to her now miss shaped
hand.  Yep, she’s a bit of mess you might say.  I like that about
her.

She doesn’t light up or sparkle, and quite often she is too small
for the tree, making her look even more out of place.  But I look forward
to her presence in my living room each Christmas.  Late at night, when the
tree is lit and others have gone on to bed, I find myself thinking of her and
all we have in common.

I too, know what it’s like to have my wings bent and torn.  I
know what it feels like when your body gives itself over to the challenges of
time.  My hair is no longer silky or radiant, and I only wish had a halo
to hide the places where it has become thin.  I understand the sagging of
her shoulders and the bowing of her head.  I have felt the weight every
mother bears for her family.  I know the need to bow my head in constant
prayer.   I love her imperfection.  She’s a holiday reminder
that God loves us in our imperfection
.

A love full of grace, a savior born to take on the sin of the world,
a reason to celebrate, reflected in the melted features and unraveled edges of
our Christmas tree Angel.

 

Rager in the Manger December 13, 2025

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Following our granddaughters’ last visit, our manger scene was a bit of a mess.  The aftermath of them spending time with the figurines resulted in what appears to be a rather rough morning after a crazy party.  I was tempted to rearrange the scene, righting it from this chaos to a more aesthetically pleasing nativity scene…but I stopped myself.

 

      Every morning, I look at what I now call the “Rager in the Manger” and smile.  I am reminded of the little hands that held those figurines and the interesting conversations I overheard. 

 

      The display’s inhabitants varied quite a bit…in addition to the regulars, a nesting doll set, a ballerina, and a reindeer made an appearance.  I tried to keep up with the soap opera unfolding before me as they played.  At one point, every figurine was placed in the stable and given names, “this one is grandma Boyles, this is grandpa, this one is Nana and this is Papa…”    Eventually, an unusual storyline emerged from their imaginations…Brooklyn, the youngest, was the ballerina.  She proclaimed she was the mommy and kept having her ballerina lovingly kiss baby Jesus.  Parker, the middle child, pushed back at this idea.  Showing Brooklyn a picture of the nativity scene on a nearby music box, she pointed out that Mary was not a ballerina.  Brooklyn explained that the picture was before she was a ballerina.  Parker’s imaginative mind wrestled this concept into time travel.  Asking if she came back in time.  Then, out of nowhere, Brooklyn proclaimed, “Baby Jesus is going to die”.    Cue dramatic pause…Parker once again tries to make it make sense, “so you came back to sped time with him?”   

 

       “Baby Jesus is going to die.” This blunt statement felt unsettling in the midst of ramping up for the Christmas season, and yet, she was not wrong. 

      This next week of Advent, we await the celebration of the birth of Jesus while contemplating  His LOVE for us.  Births are hope-filled and worthy of celebration each year with candles, presents, and cake.   But, what makes this particular birth different can be found in those startling words uttered by my granddaughter: “Baby Jesus is going to die”.   

       God sent His son, Jesus Christ, to our world on that night long ago…the Word becoming flesh, a savior born to take on the sin of the world, a fulfillment of God’s promise to us all.   His life would continually point the way to His Father.  In every step He took, every action and word, He was leading us to the cross. Yes, baby Jesus would die, but the story only begins there…Christ’s death and resurrection made a way for you and I to be reconciled with God.  Once separated from God by our sin, we can seek forgiveness and know grace because Christ was born, lived, died, and rose again.  

“By this the love of God was manifested in us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world so that we might live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the porpotiation(atonement) for our sins.” 1 John 4:10

 

We are loved. You are loved. It is not an earned love. It is a gift, waiting to be accepted, given to us in the birth of Christ.  This week, in every nativity I see, in my head I will hear Brooklyn’s sweet voice: “Baby Jesus is going to die”  and I will thank God for this most precious gift and remember how loved we are.

 

The Christmas Tree Angel…a reminder of grace December 24, 2024

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Merry Christmas dear friends and family.

Have you ever noticed how any time an angel appears in scriptures, the first words they speak are, “Do not be afraid” or “Fear not”. I suspect this is because the mere arrival of an angel is startling and unexpected. Also, perhaps their size and visage, unlike anythig one is used to, is scary. Most Christmas angel decor does not look scary…unless you consider our Christmas angel.

This year as I unearthed our beloved angel Christmas tree topper from her tissue filled box, I was stunned at just how unsightly she had become. If a larger version of her desended from the heavens, knocked on my door or popped up in my room, I would definatley need to hear her say, “Do not be afraid!” She is rather scary looking these days, and yet I love her more each passing year. She is a reminder not only of my growing up years, but of the goodness of God’s grace. Oh, I probably do not need to say, “Do not be afraid” when we meet…but if you could truley see how imperfect I am, know my hidden struggles and failures…you would perhaps gasp and I would say “”fear not”. The Good News is, God has seen and knows all our imperfections and in all our imperfections loves us, redeems us and pours out His GRACE(unearned favor).

Here again, is the annual sharing of The Christmas Tree Angel….Thank you for taking the time to read and share in this season of advent.

I’m not sure where she came from. (update: someone recognized
her and informed me she is a Nuremberg angel!) I’m not even certain of her
age. (update: As a Nuremberg angel, we probably acquired her when my
family lived in Germany when dad was in the Air Force…this would make her well
over 50 yrs!)

She sat atop the Christmas tree for many of my growing up years,
quietly presiding over each holiday season.  I acquired her from my mother
many years ago.

Her gold foil, cardboard wings, once ended in perfect points
extending her stature to seven inches.  Now her wing span is slightly
reduced, as the tips went from being slightly bent, to folded, until they
eventually tore off.  Her dark red velvet dress, trimmed with gold brick
brack, fits snuggly to her waist before flowing over her cardboard form. 
Her once silky, radiant white hair, now hangs in brittle coils around her
shoulders.  A little gold foil halo covers a place on her head where some
of her hair has given way to the passage of time.

Her head and hands are made of wax, as is the candle she holds in
one hand.  I remember her as a beautiful lady, her face perfect and
delicate.  Those qualities are now faded.  Her head, once held high
and straight, has melted somewhat.  It now bows lovingly downward and a
bit to the right.  Two years ago a significant amount of time and effort
was put into re-attaching her long held candle to her now miss shaped
hand.  Yep, she’s a bit of mess you might say.  I like that about
her.

She doesn’t light up or sparkle, and quite often she is too small
for the tree, making her look even more out of place.  But I look forward
to her presence in my living room each Christmas.  Late at night, when the
tree is lit and others have gone on to bed, I find myself thinking of her and
all we have in common.

I too, know what it’s like to have my wings bent and torn.  I
know what it feels like when your body gives itself over to the challenges of
time.  My hair is no longer silky or radiant, and I only wish had a halo
to hide the places where it has become thin.  I understand the sagging of
her shoulders and the bowing of her head.  I have felt the weight every
mother bears for her family.  I know the need to bow my head in constant
prayer.   I love her imperfection.  She’s a holiday reminder
that God loves us in our imperfection
.

A love full of grace, a savior born to take on the sin of the world,
a reason to celebrate, reflected in the melted features and unraveled edges of
our Christmas tree Angel.

 

A Love Loud and Clear December 22, 2024

As we consider the advent theme of love, my thoughts are on a helpful communication technique shared with us years ago.   When you are talking through a challenging conversation, or working through disagreements…after someone has spoken, before responding, repeat back to them what you heard them say.  Pausing to truly understand what was said, and to seek clarity before you respond is valuable. 

  The proposed conversation structure looked like this:

Person #1 shares thoughts or concern.

Perso n#2 then says, “what I just heard you say was……”

Person #1 affirms that was the intended meaning of their words, or they can course correct and clarify.

To be honest, we seldom applied this technique, our contentious or emotional conversations rarely played out so orderly…but we did find a place for it in our everyday life. 

Scott:  Hun, why do you always cook the scrambled eggs to death?

Me:   What I just heard you say was…You want to make breakfast yourself every day?

We may joke about it, but the reality is that we do need to be mindful of our communication.  Clear communication is never more important than when we want to communicate love. 

When my husband takes care of our vehicles, I hear “I love you.”  When he tends the yard and helps clean the house, I hear “I love you.”  When he takes the dog out on cold rainy days so I can stay warm and dry inside, I hear “I love you.” 

When I try to not make us late to events (a challenge because I tend to dilly dally), he hears “I love you.”  When I keep the home orderly and support his work, he hears “I love you.”   When I make him breakfast, even though the eggs are “cooked to death,” he hears “I love you”.

 Love manifested toward us is hard to miss…it is shown…it is felt…it changes things…it is LOUD and CLEAR…this is the love God revealed to us in the birth of Jesus.   In a humble barn, on a silent night pierced by the cry of a baby, wrapped in cloth and laid in a manger, God said, “I LOVE YOU!” Loud and Clear.   Do you hear it?

“In this is the love of God was manifested toward us, that God sent His only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through Him.  In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His son to be propitiation(atonement) for our sins.” 1John 4:9-10

Lord, what I just heard you say was…. “I love you!”

May this week be filled with constant reminders of how deeply loved you are by God.

 

Joy- a Choice to Trust December 17, 2024

The advent theme JOY is perhaps my favorite of the advent themes.  I probably should not have a favorite; they are all pivotal moments in our remembrance of why we celebrate the birth of Jesus.  I just love that JOY is not seasonal or situational.  Joy does not require me or my circumstances to be perfect or perfectly happy. 

I like this explanation: Joy is a lasting emotion that comes from the choice to trust that God will fulfill His promises.

Joy is a gift for any heart in knowing God has provided a way, just as He promised, for all of us to be reconciled to Him.  This is the “good news of a  GREAT JOY which shall be for ALL the people”, proclaimed to those shepherds in Luke 2:10

 I have a renewed understanding of this explanation of joy.

We had some young adult guests in our home the other evening.  A few of them noticed a framed photo on our wall, a gift from my daughter.  It was taken in 1984, the night before we were married.  We were just kids, one month from turning twenty, and unable to imagine the future we would share.  In wonder they said, “Wow, that is a long time, you must be very happy.”    At that exact moment, I was indeed very happy.  I am blessed to share love and life with Scott.  We have had a ton of happiness.  But I also know our journey has had plenty of unhappy times.  Afterall, we are imperfect people navigating life in an imperfect world.  In our lives, happiness is wonderful, but it is not what matters most. 

What fills the heart, encourages grace, propels us through hard times, comforts, gives us confidence, and allows us to love one another every day is this:  We share a lasting emotion that comes from our choice to trust the promise we made to one another that day in 1984.

Choosing to trust God in all things, knowing He has done and will do all He has promised, is a deeply planted seed of joy that will sustain you in all your days.   May this week be filled with joy, not just the happy sights and sounds of Christmas time, but the deep-down joy of knowing God fulfills His promises.

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13

 

 

“It Is What It Is” December 16, 2014

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This is the third week of Advent.  Each week, four leading up to Christmas, we pause in remembrance of the birth of our Savior.  In some households a candle will be lit in recognition of each of the Advent themes.  This week we light the candle of PEACE.

“It is what it is”. I am not sure exactly when I heard this phrase for the first time. I do not recall what it was in reference to, but it made me feel uncomfortable. Since then, I have heard these words uttered countless times and each time it made my heart ache. I had only heard “It is what it is” in negative contexts I suppose. It was often spoken with a breathy sigh, a resignation of a plight, or a settling/acceptance of a bad thing.

I get it. I know there are times in life when there is just nothing anyone can do, and as one of my friends once said, “Sometimes you just have to put your big kid pants on and deal with it.” Still, it just does not feel right to proclaim a situation as beyond change, even if it is true.

I was not a fan of “it is what it is”, which is why I found it odd, that when considering the topic of “PEACE” for our advent devotion, I could not get this phrase out of my head. I had written it down as a passing thought in my notes last week. It was even scribbled in the margin of a shopping list I made a few days ago. The words kept bouncing around in my head like that ping pong ball in the old Atari games.  At first, I thought of it as a good example of resignation/hopelessness. I thought it would be a good intro into the topic of “HOPE”, but that advent theme has already passed. I had been asking God for something to share about “PEACE”.   I was sort of hoping for a scripture to roll into my life and present itself, not a negative tinged “It is what it is.”  What could THAT have to do with PEACE, God’s PEACE?

I looked the phrase up on line, seeking to find its intended meaning. Of course there were many ways it can be utilized, but for the most part, it has come to mean the following concerning situations:

Inevitable, unchangeable, unstoppable, out of one’s control, and my favorite, “C’ est la vie” (such is life)

Suddenly the phrase that was at once zinging around in my head in negative connotation, came to a complete stop and stood glaring out at me as if in neon lettering. “It is what it is.” is not always about settling for less of a thing, or accepting a negative situation… it is a confidence that when something is not in your control, you will still be okay. It is a knowing that while something is unchangeable, you are capable of moving forward.   We may not control our circumstances, but we control how we respond in our hearts.

At Christmas we are especially mindful of the year round truth that is this:

“For God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16

This is God’s PEACE…in Him we do not strive for perfection, nor do we sit condemned from our sin. In Him we find grace, unearned favor, forgiveness and life. God’s PEACE is being settled in the midst of unsettling times. We face unchangeable things, unstoppable events and we may not have control, but our God is UNCHANGEABLE, UNSTOPPABLE and always in CONTROL.

“It is what it is” once caused me to envision someone throwing their hands up in defeat…now, when I think of this phrase, instead I envision someone dropping their burden, tossing their hands in the air and falling back into His capable arms.

“For a Child will be born to us, a Son will be given to us; and the government will rest on His shoulders; and His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Eternal Father, Prince of Peace.” (Isaiah9:16)

 

Shades of Grace September 2, 2014

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          I knew I should have skipped that second cup of coffee.  Instead of hitting the road in the comfort of an early hour, I found myself heading out for my “morning” jog just as the sun was starting to heat the land. Less than one mile into my jogging effort, I was dripping with perspiration and dragging my feet.

 

          I had intended to jog several miles this day and really wanted to meet my goal. As I trudged along, I contemplated my options. Option one: turn back, run home and call it a day Option two: stop jogging and simply walk the remainder of the course Option three: find incentive to keep going at the current pace and goal   Before I could even tackle the guilt that would no doubt burden me if I chose options one or two, option three presented itself.

 

          The street, which stretched out before me, was lined with variations of townhouses and condos. These small homes had the prerequisite small yards, each carefully landscaped with one medium sized tree. This resulted in a sidewalk literally dotted with SHADE! Every few yards the sun baked sidewalk turned a very welcome grey. The sun was sure to drain me while I ran, but I knew I could find sweet relief as I passed each shaded area.

 

          Soon, I was jogging from shade spot to shade spot. When I felt the sun beat down on my head, I simply looked toward the next tree shaped savior. I was surprised to find myself propelled forward at a good pace. It was easy to focus on the upcoming shade and disregard the sun’s assault. When the yards were further apart, and the shade not quite as near, I found myself pushing past the discomfort. I knew eventually I would run past another shade tree.

 

          Eventually my course lead me away from the tree lined street. I missed the shade spots, but I spent the rest of my jog thanking Him for the shade I’d received and being grateful for His provision.  God provided it, I ran to it.

 

          I think God’s grace is like the shade. He provides it, all we need to do is accept it, run to it. His amazing grace relieves us from the burden of our sin. When we feel discouraged, defeated or unworthy, we can find courage, victory and worth in Him. His unearned favor and forgiveness, GRACE, is offered to us.

Life can be draining and the journey a struggle, but look up and look ahead….there will be shade,

shades of grace.

“And after you have suffered a little while, the God of grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will Himself perfect, confirm, strengthen and establish you.”  (1Peter 5:10)